#1. You don't take yourself seriously. Let's face it. When men are ready to settle down, they are tired of games, gamesmanship and all around playing around. Some women don't have the carnival out of their system yet. If you're ready for a serious relationship, say so to yourself OUT LOUD and see how you feel. It will cause a mindshift or some painful honesty.
#2. You exercise zero control over your emotions. When folks look at you (yes, your postings on FB count) do they see a woman who is in control of herself or a woman who could. go. off. at. any. MOMENT!!!???? When a man sees a woman out of control, all he can imagine is her being out of control in HIS direction. Not a good look.
#3. You dress like a teenager. You dress like an old woman. A grown woman shouldn't have an entire wardrobe of clothes with tags, logos and screen-printing. Leave Old Navy and Aereoapostal (how is that spelled????) alone! On the other hand, those polyester dresses with the shoulder pads make you look like Ms. Sadie from the Missions Board. Get a catalog and get some new ideas. It doesn't have to cost a lot. Target is doing some great things these days!
#4. You are too needy. You are waaaaaaayyyyy too needy. Everyone needs a friend, a sounding board and a companion. But. When a man is considering a woman, he wants to know that she can focus on his needs, too. Old-fashioned? Perhaps. I know a lot of women who are interested in men whom they know nothing about, however, because they don't ask. The women don't ask because they don't care.
#5. You act like his Aunt Esther. Every good man I know is 100% aware of his failings and weaknesses. He doesn't need to be reminded...almost NEVER...or EVER...whatever. You know what I mean. Your job is to encourage the best out of him and that's done by praising his good qualities, not harping on his bad ones.
#6. You act like his mother. No matter how old he is, a man wants a play partner. He wants someone he can carry on his back, climb a tree with or fly a kite with. If your hair, bugs or fear of sweating are getting in the way of fun, you are losing points. I promise you. Men don't want to live life under the air conditioner and out of the humidity. Men still like to wrestle, too.
#7. You know more about Ice and Coco than politics, religion or money. A man wants a woman who can manage a house, help with his business or help raise them bad *ss kids...yours and/or his. (I don't call kids "bad" and I rarely use the word "kids" but you do, so I'm just trying to relate!) Turn off the "basketball wives" and watch MSNBC for a few minutes. It ain't gonna kill you.
#8. You are not a good listener. A good listener is a non-judgmental listener. If a guy feels like he can never be his true self around you and like you're evaluating everything he has to say, you will NEVER have true intimacy with him. NEVER. If you don't hear anything else I'm saying, please hear that!
#9. You are still taking score. What the previous man did is immaterial and he doesn't want to hear about it. You must bury any feeling of measuring one man against the next man. Every guy gets a clean slate. You can't let any sentence starting with "Men ain't _______" come out of your mouth around him. It shows you're still not allowing him to start fresh and that relationship is probably doomed already.
#10. You give away physical intimacy too easily. You thought this would be #1 didn't you, Christian girl? It isn't. The main reason it isn't is because (statistically-speaking) you and him will end up having sex before you're married anyway. Whether intentional or a (well-orchestrated) "slip and fall" incident, it happens. And...unless physical assault is involved...you were are culpable, as well. You can keep the "he convinced me" lie and try and sell it to someone else. But I digress....
My main point is you can't be having sex or even talking about sex when you first get to know guys. It throws you into the "other" category in his mind and it's hard to ever make it out of that category. (Guys only have two categories for women in their minds....wife material and NOT EVER wife material.)